In 2015, I will ________________. Fill in the blank. The promise of this statement is actually more exciting than actually doing the work to get there.
Excitement. Motivation. Relentless optimism. These are all great things, and all thing we feel when making a decision to change. With 2015 upon us most of us have created a vision for our future. Eat better. Workout more. Save more money. Be successful in business. Spend more time with family. Spend less time on Facebook. These are all wonderful things but they elicit slightly different emotions then actually implementing behaviors and following through with them.
When making the decision to change you get a rush of feel good emotions, as the promise of change is way more exciting then actually making the change itself. It is more motivating to start, give up, start give up, start give up, then to start and follow through. We look more often for an opportunity to start again with a fresh slate and get motivated about the change, then going through the process and actually doing the work the work the first time.
I am going to apply this concept to getting fit but the not so secret secret is that you already know what you need to be doing, you just have to find a way to implement it. This is why I created my FREE 15-day challenge, not some crazy promise, but a program that focus strictly on the developing the habit of working out. If you are interested you can register here by January 3rd at midnight: and find the details here!
Interestingly enough we actually give more credit to our future selves, then our current selves as Kelly McGongial points out in the book The Willpower Instinct.
“It is one of the most puzzling but predictable mental errors humans make: We think about our future selves like different people. We often idealize them, expecting our future selves to do what our present selves cannot manage.”
This is almost sweet in sense, that we think so highly of ourselves and really think that our future self will want to eat better and lose weight and implement the necessary steps even when our current self does not do that. If we can take that compassion and apply it to ourselves now and implement small, doable habits into our daily lives, we can set our expectations as high as we want, knowing that these small steps will get us there.
No matter what you promise to yourself in 2015, create high expectations, but realistic behaviors by using the following perspectives.
Be neither pessimistic, nor optimistic, be realistic.
“Optimism can make us motivated, but a dash of pessimism can help us succeed. Research show that predicting how and when you might be tempted to break your vow increases the chances that you will keep a resolution.” The Willpower Instinct.
Optimism is important. You must believe that you can achieve what you set your mind to. Set your expectations high but put realistic behaviors into place. If you want to lose 50 lbs, that is a big expectation and you can absolutely achieve that goal. But do not commit yourself to 5 hours of workouts, if you are having trouble finding 10 minutes to workout. Know that if you can squeeze in 10 minutes a day, you are well on your way to achieving that goal. Do not give up just because you are only doing 10 minutes.
Have a back up plan.
If you want to eat better and workout more often, list typical challenges you face when you are tempted to eat more and skip your workouts.
My husband always brings ice cream into the house.
I always walk in the door at night starving and eat everything in sight.
I never have a snack on me when I am out and about and end up grabbing McDonalds.
I have time to workout but it is hard to get motivated.
What back up plan could you create for these scenarios? That way when you face them, because you know you will, you already have thought about how you will workaround it.
You can accept where you are right now by working to where you want to be. If you want to lose weight do not assume that when you lose the weight it will be happy. Be happy NOW why working towards where you want to be. If you wait until you achieve something to be happy you will miss out on a lot of time being happy, even if it is not exactly where you want to be.
Your reality is what it is and there is nothing you can do to GO BACK and change it, you can only change it going forward.You already know what you need to be doing.
This is simply amazing in itself. That you do not need to search for a magic bullet or the perfect way of achieving success. You just need to keep doing the little things that need to be done each to day to be where you want to be. Again, applied to health and fitness. You know what you are suppose to eat and that you are suppose to move more, so you do not have to go searching. Like Nike says, Just Do It!
My Fitovate2015 program does all of the above to help you develop the motivation to be fit. Sometimes we just need a little guidance along the way and that is why I am here to help you get started.
Register here. ——-> bit.ly/1y09tdQ
Registration ends at midnight, January 3rd.
All the details ——-> http://adele-jones.com/fitovate-2015/
You just have to do it!
Wishing you a joyful 2015 filled with gratitude and success, anyway you define it!