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The #1 Thing Holding You Back In Life

I have found a common theme in what holds me back in life. It can come in form of work, it can come in form of relationships and it can come in form of doing the things I want to do on a daily basis. That common theme falls under one thing – not taking action.

There are many reasons we as individuals decide not to take action. We are fearful or have doubt about the outcome,  we are unmotivated and feel lazy, we would rather stay in our comfort zone, or we fall into victim mode and and find all the reasons why we can’t do something: it’s too hard, we don’t have the money, time, or understanding of what it is we really want or what we really need.  We let others dictate our lives with their critiques and criticisms of what they think we cannot do. We fall into the trap of wondering why our life is a certain way and experience reoccurring negative emotions , yet we do not do anything to change it. We do not take action.

I am a person who thrives it security, comfort and routine (at least I think I do) but about 8 years ago,  I decided I wanted to become a Pilates Instructor. It was something I had contemplated on and off. This was not a weekend and your you done kind of thing. This was a huge time and money investment and a huge step into the unknown and unfamiliar.  I calculated the hours I would put it, how long it would take me to make the money I invested back and outlined the courses and classes I would need.   I knew I wanted to do it and I took the steps to make it happen.  For me this is a rare time in my life where I took a huge step into the unknown but looking back I feel so proud because  I took action, I took the steps to make it happen. I did not let any doubt, fear or anxiety about whether or not it would work out overcome me.

Do you ever have thoughts about how you want your life to be but rather than take action, dwell on why things are not the way they are? Or maybe you have a dream or plan you are really excited and passionate about, yet never take action to make it happen. We find excuses and blame others when really the only thing that is stopping us from wanting to our lives to be a certain way is ourselves.

I struggle with this as well but I find the easiest way to calm the thoughts of doubt, victim mode and negativity is to take action. I even find this with something as simple as a to-do list. I think of all the things on that list and stress about it. Yet when I take action, when I check one thing off that list, I feel better, more accomplished. I am actually doing something rather than thinking about it.

When we experience these emotions, whether that be of doubt, fear or stress, we must look them directly in their eyes and practice overcoming them, rather than letting them overcome us. This is actually an amazing concept to think about, that we are so gifted and blessed to have the consciousness and ability to make a change.

We must face these challenges and ask:

How do I fix this?

What actions can I take to change this situation?

How can I practice this on a regular basis to see progress and change?

We can apply this to any and every situation. Are you unhappy with your body? List three things you can do to change it, and then take ACTION.  Are you unhappy with your job? List three things you can do to change it, and then take ACTION. Do you want to take a trip around the world? List three ways to help you accomplish this and, take ACTION.

Remember that while awareness of what you is the first step, action is the second. A failed action is better than no action because attempting something is better than doing nothing at all.